I heart Mystery; Reason, not so much.
Um, SoulMates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship by Thomas Moore is surpisingly good and strangely reassuring. I remember when it was very popular I was a young, cynical bookseller, who mocked self-help books, particularly those having to do with relationships, and was wary of anything involving the word "soul." And now it is exactly what I want to be reading. Plus, I only paid a dollar for it - Yeah Half-Price Books!
"All intimate relationships require some degree of magic, because magic, not reason and will, accomplishes what the soul needs."
"The heart is a mystery - not a puzzle that can't be solved, but a mystery in the religious sense: unfathomable, beyond manipulation, showing traces of the finger of God at work"
"The soul doesn't have to know what is going on in life. It doesn't need interpretations, explanations, or conclusions, but it does require musing, reverie, consideration, wonder, and exploration."